dilemma
love exists
love that if you peel it all back IS NOT JUST A DEAL A TRANSACTION A TRADE exists
love BEYOND "CONVENIENCE" or "HEALTHINESS" or ANY MEASUREMENT exists
profit (GAIN) is not the base of the world
but there's a dilemma
usually if you express this kind of love
you'll be used up like a tube of toothpaste
WHAT KIND OF LIFE IS THAT
this is not respectful of love or life
but is this then "love at cost, but only if it's not at cost".... this is back to measuring gains and losses....
so what do you do
personally: be naive and obsessive and hopeful and get used like a pet, but now i have my wife and all my worries about love are over.